tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7028388157279904779.post8877288684816265790..comments2023-03-25T01:12:47.185-07:00Comments on Adoption Animal House: Being AdoptedMarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13473842842514660709noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7028388157279904779.post-70085380605995156612009-12-25T16:21:22.021-08:002009-12-25T16:21:22.021-08:00I know this is an old post but just in case you ar...I know this is an old post but just in case you are still reading comments...<br /><br />I seem to be going through a similar thing with my son where he appears determined to prove to himself that I don't think much of him.<br /><br />This is untrue (see name of my blog for one thing) but he seems to be trying desperately to prove that it is.<br /><br />I am at a total loss. Everything gets twisted to that end.<br /><br />Sadly, I think you may be right, this is one of the effects of adoption - something every girl/woman considering it as an option should know.<br /><br />UMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7028388157279904779.post-52798734545515602602009-10-11T20:40:30.928-07:002009-10-11T20:40:30.928-07:00I wish we (adoptees) didn't have to disconnect...I wish we (adoptees) didn't have to disconnect in order to survive. We learned this very little in order to keep our sanity among the chaos. How confusing and traumatic it is for a child to be removed from his/her mother and handled by many people before ever being in a "forever family" (BLAH).<br /><br />Adoption should be rare in cases of parental death or other incapacity. It's too common and there is not one person undamaged by the life-long, life-altering process called "adoption".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7028388157279904779.post-11948964270343754752009-10-10T08:33:20.815-07:002009-10-10T08:33:20.815-07:00Thanks, Peach. Your words mean a lot to me. I am...Thanks, Peach. Your words mean a lot to me. I am starting to find a great deal of comfort in this quiet place. For one of the first times in my life, I don't feel like I'm frantically searching for someone to love me. In the past week, they have been coming to me and loving me on their own. And instead of mistrust, I am embracing it. It feels good.Marahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13473842842514660709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7028388157279904779.post-23436106411706027142009-10-10T08:02:27.962-07:002009-10-10T08:02:27.962-07:00Hugs. I feel like I could have written that. The...Hugs. I feel like I could have written that. The fear of people leaving and pacifying myself with inner-silence. Becoming disconnected to survive. And trying so hard to re-connect and live. Thank you for sharing and I hope this week is better. Hugs, PeachSamantha Franklinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18249283547377633349noreply@blogger.com